Talking to your teen about trauma can feel overwhelming and difficult. Even if you have not experienced trauma yourself, you can understand how one probably does not want to talk about the things that have hurt them or scarred them in the past. It can cause all of the negative emotions to resurface. Your teen should never feel pressured to talk about their trauma. Some reasons to consider why one may not want to talk about their trauma include:
- Denial of the trauma: the natural response towards trauma is to try and remove all memory of it and pretend it didn’t happen.
- Survival: Sometimes individuals think no one will believe them or speaking their truth will come at a cost.
- The unspeakable nature of trauma: Trauma often represents the violation of all we hold to be dear and sacred therefore individuals do not want to open up about it.
- The hostile culture: Naturally, trauma victims will feel cautious about disclosing their trauma history because of the cultural response.
Why You Should Be Talking To Your Teen About Their Trauma
The reasons why it is important to talk to your teen about trauma have recently been put on display by researchers. In a nutshell- Traumatic thoughts and memories that remain “unspeakable” or “unthinkable” for too long often impede our brain’s natural process of recovery after trauma. As a parent you may feel uncomfortable trying to open this conversation with your teen. However, therapy is a great way to open that door. Outwardly talking about trauma memories in this fashion does not make symptoms worse. When it is done with the help of a skilled therapist, PTSD symptoms have been shown to improve. As a parent, here are some tips on how you can give your teen the best support:
- Show them love and care.
- Let them know you are always there for them so they feel comfortable talking to you.
- Find resources available to help your teen cope with their trauma.
- Allow them appropriate “breathing room”.
- Ask a skilled professional what you can do to meet your teen’s unique needs
Solstice West RTC Can Help
Solstice West RTC is a program for young girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18 who struggle with issues such as anxiety, depression, trauma, and/or relationship struggles. This program provides three types of therapy: individual, group, and family therapy. Solstice Residential Treatment Center is dedicated to teaching teens how to incorporate healthy habits into their lives. Students will leave with the skills they need to transition into the world feeling confident, happy, and able to manage their emotions. We can help your family today!
Contact us at 866-278-3345.