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Being a great role model: Mentoring youth in a positive way

Being a great role model: Mentoring youth in a positive way 2560 1706 Solstice RTC

January is National Mentor Month. For many young people, having a mentor in their life can greatly improve their overall motivation and self esteem. If someone is there who pushes you to be productive and work hard, you’re more likely to do well. For teen girls and assigned female at birth especially, having a role model to look up to can reshape the way they see the world and their overall behavior in an extremely positive way. But how can you forge such a strong bond with your own daughter? For girls and assigned female at birth struggling with trauma or other emotional and behavioral difficulties, being able to trust someone to such an intense degree can be hard. However, mentoring youth who have such difficulties is definitely do-able.

Building trust and strong bonds by mentoring youth

For many young people, having an inspiring mentor can help them grow as individuals both personally and professionally. Mentoring youth doesn’t have to entail a huge time commitment or a great amount of resources. Here’s a few tips on how to work on creating an effective mentoring relationship with your teen daughter:

  • Don’t force the connection: If your child doesn’t want to build a relationship with you, they won’t. In order for the mentorship to actually work, the bond between the two of you has to be 100 percent genuine. That means, both parties have to agree to spending time together.
  • Practice what you preach: If you’re teaching your child about the right way to do something, make sure it’s actually something you are doing yourself. For example, if you’re teaching their how to live a healthier lifestyle, try being healthy yourself. They won’t believe anything you say if you don’t carry out those actions in your own life.
  • Be a positive coach: Positive coaching is when a mentor helps a young person achieve specific goals for the purpose of growth. Studies have shown that positive coaching can help teens better deal with stress and achieve their goals.
  • Be open with your daughter: In order for your child to truly trust you, you need to open up to their about your own life experiences. You have to be willing to be vulnerable in order for your child to open up to you about their own thoughts and feelings.

Solstice rebuilds relationships

Solstice, a residential treatment center for teen girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18, can help your struggling child reach their fullest potential. We believe in fostering positive, trusting relationships between teen girls, their families, and other loved ones. 

For more information about Solstice, please call (866) 278-3345.

 

Heroes with Hooves: Benefits of Equine Therapy for Teen Girls

Heroes with Hooves: Benefits of Equine Therapy for Teen Girls 2560 1707 Solstice RTC

Horses are powerful, emotional creatures. They’ve lived alongside humans for thousands of years and throughout that time, humans have formed close bonds with them. It’s these close bond that make equine therapy so effective.

A recent study by the University of Rostock in Germany shows that human-animal interactions increase levels of oxytocin, also known as the “bonding hormone”. This in turn triggers an increase in trust towards others, enhances empathy and learning, lowers fear and anxiety, and improves pain management. This is of particular relevance for teen girls and assigned female at birth struggling with emotional and behavioral difficulties such as trauma related struggles, depression, anxiety. Through equine therapy,  trust can slowly be regained. 

Why equine therapy?

Equine therapy is based around the idea that horses mirror the emotions and behaviors of the people that surround them. They are non-judgmental and have no pre-conceived notions about the people they are interacting with. Much like humans, horses are social animals who live in herds and have distinct personalities. This makes it easy for teens to relate to horses, when they see something of themselves in a horse. Other benefits of equine therapy include further development of:

  • empathy
  • impulse control
  • understanding nonverbal cues
  • responsibility
  • a renewed sense of trust
  • decreased feelings of isolation
  • self empowerment
  • communication skills

Equine therapy allows teen girls and assigned female at birth to learn the importance of, and how to, manage their emotional energy in order to communicate their thoughts and needs more effectively and avoid the occurrence or reactivity when responding to others. Learning these concepts in a controlled environment, like equine therapy, is a huge step towards improved social skills, emotional regulation, communications, and healthier relationships.

Solstice can help

Solstice, a residential treatment center for teen girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18, helps teen girls and assigned female at birth work through difficulties such as depression, trauma-related issues, and anxiety. Solstice utilizes equine therapy to help girls and assigned female at birth improve socially and emotionally through a close bond with the horses on campus. Solstice’s experienced, caring staff (and animals) have helped hundreds of teen girls and assigned female at birth find success and happiness.

For more information about Solstice, please call (866) 278-3345.

 

Miss Independence: ADHD in Teens and Parental Support

Miss Independence: ADHD in Teens and Parental Support 800 467 Solstice RTC

Now that your child has reached their teenage years, she’s most likely craving independence. She’s beginning to distance herself from you and your family and spending most of their time out with their friends. When your child has ADHD, this may become an issue. ADHD in teens often makes it more likely for teens to be more impulsive, making their time alone with friends late at night pretty risky. Parenting teens with ADHD is difficult, but it’s important to remember that your teen needs you, no matter how much they may push you away.

Providing support

While other parents of teens may be slackening the reins on their teens, ADHD in teens can cause parents to hold onto them for dear life. Teens with ADHD still need the support you’ve been giving them for most of their life. It’s still important to monitor their school work, as well as their behavior around others. Without your support, your teen might not be able to do as well as their peers.

Creating strict rules

Your continued support will most likely frustrate your teen, making them want to rebel. It’s important to set a few very strict rules for your child to follow. ADHD in teens makes it more likely for your teen to engage in risky behavior like drug and alcohol use, speeding, and unsafe sex. Because of this, your child needs to know what the consequences of their impulsivity would be. Setting clear rules and consequences is important in helping your teen understand what behaviors are completely unacceptable and what will happen if they engage in them.

Encourage their talents

Helping your child explore their talents and passions is important in overcoming the shortcomings that come with ADHD. Does your child love sports? Theater? Band? Get their to try their hand at extracurriculars. Once something sticks, she’ll enjoy school a lot more than if they wasn’t engaged in an after school activity.

Quality Time with her

Creating a close bond with your child can help their work through their difficulties. They needs to know that you’re there for their when they needs you most. Make time in both of your busy schedules to go to the movies or make dinner together. On the flip side of that, if you’re arguing with your teen all the time, make sure you’re getting enough time for yourself. If you can, spend a weekend or two every year away with your friends and away from the kids. This will help you come back to your teen ready to work on their behavior!

Solstice can help

Solstice, a residential treatment center for teen girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18 struggling with emotional and behavioral difficulties can help your teen with ADHD find success.

For more information about Solstice, please call (866) 278-3345.

 

improving communication with your teen

Getting Your Child Back: Five Tips For Improving Communication with your teen

Getting Your Child Back: Five Tips For Improving Communication with your teen 2560 1706 Solstice RTC

Now that your child is in their teen years, you may feel like she’s becoming more and more distant. The lines of communication are probably slowly coming apart and you’re probably wondering how to get back the sweet child you know is inside that angsty, isolated person in front of you. Improving communication with your teen is one of the key ways to improve your relationship with your daughter.

Where to start?

You may be confused as where to even begin reconnecting with your daughter. Here are a few steps you can take for improving communication with your teen:

  1. Don’t get emotional: This is one of the hardest things a parent can do. After all, your child is the most precious part of your life. When you’re trying to get through to your teen who may be having difficulties with behavioral or emotional struggles, it’s important to remember that your job is to be their parent, and not to get frustrated with your teen. 
  2. Be curious, don’t interrogate: Instead of asking your teen what they did on a daily basis with the tone of a drill sergeant, actually be curious about what they are up to. Listen to what they have to say and don’t interrupt with your opinion. Teens need a connection with you, as their parent, so connect with them on a level that they can understand.
  3. Don’t communicate until everyone is calm: If you or your teen is agitated, not is NOT the time to try and communicate. Your emotions will cloud your judgment, making it difficult to truly understand where the other person is coming from.
  4. Try not to lecture too much: Your teen doesn’t want to listen to what you have to say when you go into “lecture mode”. It’s important to suggest to them your opinion and experience, but they will not listen to you if you’re patronizing them.
  5. Take time to talk in those in-between moments: When you’re with your teen in the car or up late with them on weekend nights, take the time to talk to them and get to know them as people. You’d be surprised how meaningful those moments can be for your relationship with your teen.

Solstice can help

If your child is struggling with emotional and behavioral difficulties and you’re having trouble getting through to them, consider Solstice residential treatment center. Solstice helps teen girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18 work through their struggles.

For more information about Solstice, please call (866) 278-3345.

relationship problems

Teen Girls and assigned female at birth – girls and assigned female at birth and Relationship Problems

Teen Girls and assigned female at birth – girls and assigned female at birth and Relationship Problems 2560 1628 Solstice RTC

Being a teenage girl or child assigned female at birth is hard. Though most teen responsibilities are small, the task of navigating and surviving the social emotional maze of high school is huge. From the ages 14 to 18, your child is thrust into a world of judgements, gossip, competition and confusion. They will face relationship problems with friends, significant others, family and within herself. The way they handles these struggles can determine their self-perception, as well as how they conducts relationships for the rest of their life. 

Relationship problems can cause a decline in mental health

At this formative age, everything seems like a big deal. Something as small as an argument with a friend, to as big as a breakup, can be internalized as a devastating rejection. Relationship problems have the power to negatively impact the mental health of your teen daughter. As a parent, it is important that you try to prevent such damage by teaching your child about forming healthy relationships.

“I found that girls’ risk of severe depression, thoughts of suicide and suicide attempts increase the more their relationships diverge from what they imagined,” – Brian Soller, PhD, University of New Mexico

Healthy vs. unhealthy relationships

Humans learn from observations and experience. If your child has only experienced unhealthy relationships, that will be the only kind of relationship they will know how to have. Because of this, it is important they are taught the difference and the importance of having healthy relationships.

Unhealthy:

Unhealthy relationships cause more stress than happiness. They are manipulative, dishonest, unaccepting and pressuring. Those in unhealthy relationships tend to neglect self-care, withdraw from loved ones and develop problems in other areas of life.

Healthy:

Healthy relationships create more happiness than stress. Typically these relationships are built on a foundation of mutual trust, respect, honesty and support. Individuals in relationships that are healthy take care of themselves, maintain other relationships (like with family and friends), have separate activities and accept the other person.

Teach your child these tips to managing conflicts:

  • Your health and happiness is the most important. If resolving the conflict won’t make you happy and healthy then walk away. Prioritize yourself.
  • Communication and honesty. Clearly explain your thoughts and feelings.
  • Accept the things you cannot change. People will be who they are.
  • Compromise if often the best solution.

Solstice RTC can help your child through these formative years

If you are on your last limb and don’t know what else to do for your daughter, Solstice RTC can help. Solstice RTC is a leading therapeutic residential treatment center that helps teen girls, ages 14-18, with trauma, mood disorders, substance abuse, relationship problems and much more. Through an effective holistic approach your child can heal and thrive.

Call today us today, for more information, at (866) 278-3345.