January is National Mentor Month. For many young people, having a mentor in their life can greatly improve their overall motivation and self esteem. If someone is there who pushes you to be productive and work hard, you’re more likely to do well. For teen girls and assigned female at birth especially, having a role model to look up to can reshape the way they see the world and their overall behavior in an extremely positive way. But how can you forge such a strong bond with your own daughter? For girls and assigned female at birth struggling with trauma or other emotional and behavioral difficulties, being able to trust someone to such an intense degree can be hard. However, mentoring youth who have such difficulties is definitely do-able.
Building trust and strong bonds by mentoring youth
For many young people, having an inspiring mentor can help them grow as individuals both personally and professionally. Mentoring youth doesn’t have to entail a huge time commitment or a great amount of resources. Here’s a few tips on how to work on creating an effective mentoring relationship with your teen daughter:
- Don’t force the connection: If your child doesn’t want to build a relationship with you, they won’t. In order for the mentorship to actually work, the bond between the two of you has to be 100 percent genuine. That means, both parties have to agree to spending time together.
- Practice what you preach: If you’re teaching your child about the right way to do something, make sure it’s actually something you are doing yourself. For example, if you’re teaching their how to live a healthier lifestyle, try being healthy yourself. They won’t believe anything you say if you don’t carry out those actions in your own life.
- Be a positive coach: Positive coaching is when a mentor helps a young person achieve specific goals for the purpose of growth. Studies have shown that positive coaching can help teens better deal with stress and achieve their goals.
- Be open with your daughter: In order for your child to truly trust you, you need to open up to their about your own life experiences. You have to be willing to be vulnerable in order for your child to open up to you about their own thoughts and feelings.
Solstice rebuilds relationships
Solstice, a residential treatment center for teen girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18, can help your struggling child reach their fullest potential. We believe in fostering positive, trusting relationships between teen girls, their families, and other loved ones.
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