Now that your child is in their teen years, you may feel like she’s becoming more and more distant. The lines of communication are probably slowly coming apart and you’re probably wondering how to get back the sweet child you know is inside that angsty, isolated person in front of you. Improving communication with your teen is one of the key ways to improve your relationship with your daughter.
Where to start?
You may be confused as where to even begin reconnecting with your daughter. Here are a few steps you can take for improving communication with your teen:
- Don’t get emotional: This is one of the hardest things a parent can do. After all, your child is the most precious part of your life. When you’re trying to get through to your teen who may be having difficulties with behavioral or emotional struggles, it’s important to remember that your job is to be their parent, and not to get frustrated with your teen.
- Be curious, don’t interrogate: Instead of asking your teen what they did on a daily basis with the tone of a drill sergeant, actually be curious about what they are up to. Listen to what they have to say and don’t interrupt with your opinion. Teens need a connection with you, as their parent, so connect with them on a level that they can understand.
- Don’t communicate until everyone is calm: If you or your teen is agitated, not is NOT the time to try and communicate. Your emotions will cloud your judgment, making it difficult to truly understand where the other person is coming from.
- Try not to lecture too much: Your teen doesn’t want to listen to what you have to say when you go into “lecture mode”. It’s important to suggest to them your opinion and experience, but they will not listen to you if you’re patronizing them.
- Take time to talk in those in-between moments: When you’re with your teen in the car or up late with them on weekend nights, take the time to talk to them and get to know them as people. You’d be surprised how meaningful those moments can be for your relationship with your teen.
Solstice can help
If your child is struggling with emotional and behavioral difficulties and you’re having trouble getting through to them, consider Solstice residential treatment center. Solstice helps teen girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18 work through their struggles.
For more information about Solstice, please call (866) 278-3345.