Sometimes it can feel like bullying has become more and more prevalent in teens. Consistent torment by peers can take a toll on teens particularly in the way they view themselves or on their self-esteem. Studies show that teens who are repeatedly bullied have lower reports of self esteem and higher rates of depression and anxiety. However, parents can have an important role in decreasing the effect of bullying. One study from the University of Missouri says that if teens feel a sense of belonging, either with their family or peers, the less likely they will be a victim or even engage in bullying behaviors.
Self Esteem and Bullying
Engaging with your daughter, asking open ended questions about her day can help parents create and maintain a connection that can make your teen feel more secure. This relationship can be an important source of support for your daughter. If she experiences bullying she is more likely to come to you if there is a secure and open relationship in place.
Another factor in how self-esteem is affected by bullying is a decrease in social and communication skills. As parents, it’s important to encourage these behaviors with specific praises focusing on behavior such as “Wow you did a really good job talking to your teacher today” or “I really like how good of a friend you are”. If your daughter is feeling down and being hard on herself, expressing out loud some positive traits that you see in her can be really helpful for combating negative self-talk. Keeping up a positive commentary of how much your child means to you can also be beneficial even if they don’t reciprocate. Remember, they always hear you even if they don’t show it.
Finding Help at Solstice West
If your daughter is struggling with low self esteem and bullying, Solstice West can help. We are a residential treatment center with a focus on helping young women struggling with mental health challenges related to trauma. Learn more about our program by calling out admissions team at 866-278-3345.