Finding help for a defiant teenage child can be a difficult process. With hormonal changes, it can feel like a constant power struggle. When your teen is constantly going against you or striking an argument, it is important that you don’t fuel the fire. You should understand that your teenager may be very vulnerable, dealing with school stress, and/or the pressure to fit in. These stresses can build up and cause teenagers to be defiant. Defiance in teenagers can reveal itself in a number of ways. Some of these ways can include:
- Purposefully not listening
- Disregarding rules
- Missing curfew
Getting Your Defiant Teenage Child Under Control
While you may feel alone and helpless at times, rest assured knowing that there are ways you can help your teen transition from their defiant behavior to respectful behavior. Your approach to this task has a critical role in determining whether or not they respond in a positive way. Here are some methods that can help you get your defiant teenage child under control:
- Develop self-respect. This is the first step in trying to improve your teen’s sense of respect—develop your own self-respect. Know your bottom line and stand firmly in it. Set clear expectations of how you want to be treated and hold your teen accountable. Setting limits from the beginning establishes a solid foundation to build upon.
- Emphasize alternative actions. A lot of times defiant teens may think their behavior or attitude is going to solve their frustrations or problems. This is simply not the case. Make sure your teen knows that yelling, eye-rolling, and being disrespectful is no way to reach a positive outcome. Teach your teen to problem solve in a more effective manner.
- Plan ahead. It is important that you are always equipped and prepared to handle defiant behaviors. Being overly reactive and responding in an angry outburst will only make matters worse. Come up with a plan to address the situation in a meaningful way that is seeking the best interest of your teen.
- Ask for help. Rest assured knowing you are not the first parent to have to deal with defiant teenage behaviors. Do not hesitate to ask for help. Seek out community resources or family and friends to help enforce expectations for your teen or to give advice when you need it. Talking to someone can be extremely helpful.
Solstice Residential Treatment Center can help
Solstice Residential Treatment Center is a program for young girls and assigned female at birth ages 14-18 who struggle with issues such as anxiety, depression, trauma, and/or relationship struggles. This program provides three types of therapy: individual, group, and family therapy. Solstice Residential Treatment Center is dedicated to teaching teens how to incorporate healthy habits into their lives. Students will leave with the skills they need to transition into the world feeling confident, happy, and able to manage their emotions. We can help your family today!
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