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Screen Addiction in Teen Girls: When It Signals a Deeper Issue
Screen Addiction in Teen Girls: When It Signals a Deeper Issue 2560 1707 Clinically Reviewed by Rod Russell MS, SUDC and Blake Taylor MCoun, CMHC
Clinically Reviewed by Rod Russell & Blake Taylor

What Is Screen Addiction in Teens?

Screen addiction or tech addiction in teens is a pattern of compulsive digital use that a teen struggles to control, even when it causes problems in daily life.

It may involve social media, gaming, short-form videos, messaging, streaming, online shopping, pornography, or constant phone checking. It isn’t concerning that a teen enjoys technology, but it becomes a concern when teens keep returning to screens even when it affects sleep, school, relationships, mood, safety, or family trust.

Researchers and clinicians describe this using terms like problematic screen use, addictive screen use, tech addiction, or digital addiction. No matter the term, these share a similar pattern: loss of control, emotional distress when unable to use, and continued use despite consequences.

We think it’s important to note that “screen addiction” is not an official DSM-5 diagnosis. The DSM-5 includes Internet Gaming Disorder in Section III as a condition for further study, while gambling disorder is the only behavioral addiction currently recognized as a diagnosable DSM-5 disorder. Still, many clinicians use a behavioral-addiction or process-addiction framework when screen use becomes compulsive, hard to stop, and harmful to daily life. 

In this article, “screen addiction” is used in that practical, parent-friendly sense. It describes a concerning pattern, not a formal diagnosis.

Screen Addiction in Teen Girls: When It Signals a Deeper Issue


Your daughter says she is “just checking one thing,” but an hour later, she is still scrolling. She promises she will go to bed soon, but the light from her phone is still under the door at midnight. When you set a limit, she doesn’t just get annoyed: she panics, shuts down, begs for more time, or explodes. School, sleep, friendships, and family trust start to suffer.

At first, it may look like a screen-time problem, too much access. But for some teen girls, the issue is not only how many hours they spend online, but the pattern of it, the pull of their devices. The issue is what happens when they try to stop. From a different angle, it is what the screen may be helping them avoid, numb, or control.

This is why experts are paying closer attention to addictive screen use, not just total screen time. A 2025 JAMA cohort study found that high or increasing addictive use of social media, mobile phones, or video games was associated with suicidal ideation, suicidal behaviors, and worse mental health outcomes among youth. The study also noted that total screen time alone did not explain the same risk pattern, supporting a more nuanced focus on compulsive use rather than minutes alone.

This study’s distinction matters. A teen can spend time online in creative, social, or educational ways, but when screen use becomes compulsive, secretive, emotionally intense, or tied to unsafe choices, families may need to look deeper.

For families considering IOP, residential treatment, or other structured support, screen addiction may be one part of a larger picture. Tech addiction can overlap with process addictions, substance use, anxiety, depression, trauma, school refusal, self-harm, and family disconnection.

Screen Time vs. Screen Addiction: Why the Pattern Matters

Concerns around screen time focus on one question: “How long was she on the device?” 

That question can be useful, especially when sleep, school, or family time is being crowded out. But it does not tell the whole story. A better question is, what happens when she has to stop?

Parents can look for patterns like: 

  • Can she stop when she needs to?
  • Does she become panicked, furious, or hopeless when offline?
  • Is she using screens to escape anxiety, shame, sadness, loneliness, cravings, or trauma reminders?
  • Is screen use replacing sleep, school, hobbies, meals, movement, or face-to-face connection?
  • Does she keep using despite serious consequences?

Distinctions like this matter because not all screen use is harmful. People commonly use technology to create art, learn new skills, connect with friends, research a school project, play games to unwind, or participate in a supportive community. These behaviors are different from doom-scrolling until 2 a.m., gaming to avoid school, checking social media every few minutes to manage social anxiety, or hiding online behavior after repeated family conflict.

The American Academy of Pediatrics now emphasizes quality, context, and balance rather than simple fixed time limits for all youth, especially as digital life has become more complex. For parents, that means the goal is not to panic over every hour online. The goal is to understand whether screen use is helping or hurting your daughter’s life.

How App Design Keeps Teens Coming Back

It’s worth remembering that teens are not setting limits in a neutral environment. Many technologies are actually designed to grab and hold our attention. Apps, games, and social platforms often use persuasive design features like infinite scroll, autoplay, notifications, streaks, likes, and algorithmic recommendations. These features can make it harder to stop, especially for adolescents whose brains are still developing skills for impulse control, emotional regulation, and long-term decision-making.

This does not remove personal responsibility around habits, but it can add some context.

The American Psychological Association has recommended that teens receive social media literacy training to better understand how platforms may influence attention, behavior, and well-being. 

Compulsive screen use is not simply a “willpower problem.” Teens –– and adults –– may be trying to set limits while also pushing against platforms designed to pull them back in.

Signs Your Daughter’s Screen Use May Be Compulsive

One warning sign does not imply addiction. Teens need privacy, social connection, and independence. They may also resist limits as part of normal development.

The pattern becomes more concerning when screen use starts to change your daughter’s sleep, mood, school performance, honesty, safety, or interest in offline life.

1. She Feels Anxious, Angry, or Panicked When Offline

Many teens dislike being away from their phones, but compulsive use often brings a stronger emotional reaction.

You may notice:

  • Panic when the phone dies.
  • Anger when Wi-Fi is unavailable.
  • Intense fear of missing out.
  • Crying, yelling, or threatening when limits are set.
  • Restlessness when she cannot check messages.
  • Feeling “unsafe” without the phone.

Reactions attached to compulsive behavior aren’t usually just about the device. For some teens, the phone represents connection, control, distraction, reassurance, or escape. When it is removed, the underlying emotion may rush forward.

2. Screens Interfere With Sleep, School, or Relationships

Sleep disruption is one of the clearest warning signs. A teen may stay up scrolling, wake during the night to check messages, fall asleep with videos playing, or intentionally hide a device under her pillow. Over time, lack of sleep can worsen mood, attention, irritability, and impulse control.

Parents may also notice:

  • Falling grades.
  • Missed assignments.
  • School avoidance.
  • Skipping meals or family time.
  • Less interest in sports, art, music, or friendships.
  • More isolation in her room.
  • Increased conflict when asked to stop.

AACAP notes that children and adolescents spend significant time with screens and encourages families to set healthy limits, choose quality content, and create balanced routines. 

3. She Hides Use or Breaks Rules Repeatedly

Secrecy can be a sign that your daughter feels ashamed, afraid, or unable to control her behavior around screens.

You may find a hidden app, a second account, deleted messages, or a device being used after bedtime. You may make an agreement together, only to discover the same behavior again a few days later.

This does not mean your daughter is “bad.” It may mean the behavior has become powerful enough that rules alone are not working. At that point, more rules may create more hiding unless the family also addresses what the screen is helping her manage.

4. She Uses Screens to Escape Emotional Pain

This is often the most important sign.

A teen may turn to screens every time she feels rejected, anxious, bored, ashamed, lonely, angry, or sad. She may not know how to calm her nervous system without scrolling, gaming, messaging, or watching videos.

Parents may hear:

  • “It’s the only thing that helps.”
  • “I can’t deal with school without my phone.”
  • “I need to know what people are saying.”
  • “I feel worse when I’m alone with my thoughts.”
  • “I don’t care about anything else.”

When screens become the main coping tool, the teen may lose practice with other ways of managing distress.

5. Offline Life Starts to Shrink

A teen struggling with addictive screen use may slowly disconnect from activities that once mattered. They may stop attending events or avoid meeting friends in person. They may lose interest in hobbies that once filled their free time. Essentially, their world gets smaller while the online world gets bigger.

This is especially concerning when the teen seems more distressed after being online but still cannot stop. Screen addiction in teen girls is often not just about the device. It may be a sign of deeper emotional pain, process addiction patterns, substance use risk, trauma, anxiety, depression, or disconnection from family and offline life.

Why Teen Girls May Be Especially Vulnerable

Teen girls often experience online life through relationships. Delayed replies can feel like rejection, group photos can feel like proof she was left out, and comments about appearance can stay with her for days. 

Social media can intensify comparison, body image pressure, fear of exclusion, friend conflict, and the pressure to respond immediately.  A daughter may not say, “I’m addicted to my phone.” She may say:

  • “Everyone will forget about me.”
  • “I need to know if they posted without me.”
  • “I look terrible.”
  • “I can’t ignore the group chat.”
  • “If I don’t answer, they’ll be mad.”
  • “The algorithm won’t show my posts if I take a break.”

For girls with anxiety, depression, trauma, ADHD, low self-worth, or rejection sensitivity, online connections can feel both comforting and painful. It gives reassurance, but the reassurance fades. It distracts from distress, but the distress returns. It creates connection, but it may also deepen comparison and loneliness.

That cycle can be hard to break without support, especially when online identity has started to feel more manageable than real-life connections.

How Screen Addiction Overlaps With Process Addictions

Screen addiction is often discussed as a type of process addiction or behavioral addiction. Process addictions involve compulsive engagement in a behavior despite negative consequences. They may include gaming, social media use, online shopping, gambling-like behaviors, exercise, or other rewarding behaviors.

Compulsive screen use may include patterns that resemble other addictions:

  • Cravings or urges.
  • Loss of control.
  • Secrecy.
  • Emotional withdrawal when unable to use.
  • Needing more time or intensity to feel satisfied.
  • Continued use despite harm.
  • Repeated failed attempts to cut back.

For teen girls, the behavior may begin as a method to self-soothe. It may help her avoid painful emotions, peer rejection, trauma memories, family conflict, or school stress. But over time, it can become one of the main ways she copes.

That is when the problem is no longer just the app, game, or phone. The deeper concern is the underlying emotional pattern.

The Connection Between Screen Addiction and Substance Use Risk

Screen addiction and substance use are not the same thing. One does not automatically cause the other, but for some teens, they can overlap. A teen may use screens and substances for similar reasons: to numb, escape, feel accepted, reduce anxiety, or avoid distress.

Recent research has examined links between screen use patterns and substance use experimentation in early adolescents. One prospective study using ABCD Study data found associations between several screen modalities and later substance use experimentation among early adolescents. 

Online spaces may expose teens to substance-related content, risky peer groups, normalization of drugs and alcohol, or social situations where substance use is encouraged. This does not mean parents should assume the worst. It does mean that if compulsive screen use appears alongside vaping, cannabis use, alcohol use, secrecy, school problems, or unsafe peers, the family may need a broader assessment.

Consider asking: “What role are screens and substances playing in her emotional life?” If both are helping a teen avoid pain or seek relief, it’s likely that the deeper coping pattern needs to be supported through therapeutic treatment.

When Screen Addiction May Need More Than Parental Controls

App limits, device-free bedrooms, and screen-free family routines can all be helpful tools for reducing screen time. But parental controls alone may not be enough when screen use is connected to larger safety or mental health concerns.

Professional support may be needed if your daughter’s screen use is connected to:

  • Suicidal thoughts or self-harm.
  • Substance use.
  • School refusal.
  • Severe depression or anxiety.
  • Trauma symptoms.
  • Unsafe online relationships.
  • Aggression when limits are set.
  • Eating disorder behaviors.
  • Major sleep disruption.
  • Repeated failed attempts to reduce use.
  • Family conflict that feels unmanageable.

The 2025 JAMA study found that youth with high or increasing addictive screen use trajectories had worse mental health outcomes and higher risk patterns related to suicidal ideation or behavior, especially around social media and mobile phone use.

Studies like this are helpful to guide families toward the right question: “Is this behavior becoming compulsive, harmful, and emotionally necessary?”

Outpatient, IOP, or Residential Treatment: What Level of Care May Fit?

Parents often wonder whether their daughter needs therapy, IOP, residential treatment, or something else.

There is no one-size-fits-all answer. A licensed professional should help assess safety, functioning, substance use, family dynamics, and co-occurring mental health needs.

Still, the following framework can help families think about next steps.

Level of Care May Be Appropriate When Primary Goal
Outpatient therapy Screen use is concerning, but safety, school, and home routines are mostly stable Build awareness, coping skills, and family boundaries
Intensive outpatient program Screen use overlaps with anxiety, depression, early substance use, school problems, or family conflict, but the teen can remain safe at home Provide structured therapy while the teen practices skills in daily life
Residential treatment Screen use is part of a larger crisis involving substance use, self-harm, suicidal ideation, unsafe behavior, trauma symptoms, or repeated failed attempts at home Create safety, reduce triggers, stabilize mental health, and rebuild coping skills

Concerned that screen use is part of a larger safety, substance use, or mental health concern?

Speak with our admissions team about whether residential support may be appropriate.

When IOP May Help

An intensive outpatient program may be a good fit when a teen needs more than weekly therapy but does not need 24-hour care.

IOP may support teens who:

  • Are struggling with compulsive screen use and emotional dysregulation.
  • Have early substance use concerns.
  • Need structured skills practice several days per week.
  • Can stay safe at home.
  • Have caregivers who can maintain boundaries.
  • Are still able to participate in school or daily routines.

IOP can be especially helpful when the goal is to practice new coping skills in real-life settings.

When Residential Treatment May Help

Residential treatment may be appropriate when home-based limits and outpatient support are not enough.

This may include situations where screen use is connected to:

  • Substance use.
  • Self-harm or suicidal thoughts.
  • Unsafe online contact.
  • Severe family conflict.
  • School refusal.
  • Running away.
  • Aggression.
  • Trauma symptoms.
  • Serious mood instability.
  • Repeated failed attempts to stop or reduce use.

In residential treatment, a teen has space away from daily triggers. She can build emotional regulation skills, address co-occurring concerns, and reconnect with life outside of screens.

How Solstice West RTC Supports Teen Girls and Families

Solstice West RTC supports adolescent girls whose screen use may be part of a larger pattern of emotional distress, process addiction, substance use, trauma, anxiety, depression, or family disconnection.

The goal is not to shame the use of technology, but to understand what the behavior is doing for the teen. Is this pattern helping her avoid grief? Is it numbing anxiety? Is it replacing face-to-face connection? Is it keeping her tied to unsafe peers? Is it part of a broader process addiction or substance use pattern?

In a residential setting, girls can step away from the patterns they have built alongside constant digital pressure to begin practicing healthier ways to manage discomfort. Here, they can rebuild sleep routines, strengthen emotional regulation, repair family trust, and rediscover meaningful offline activities.

For many families, treatment is also a chance to move from daily power struggles to clearer communication. Through family work, we help parents learn what their whole family needs to feel safe, connected, and capable in the modern world.

What Parents Can Do Before Things Escalate

If you are worried about your daughter’s screen use, you do not have to solve everything in one conversation. 

Start With Curiosity, Not Accusation

Try saying:

“I’ve noticed it seems really hard to be away from your phone lately. I’m not trying to shame you. Honestly, I know how easy it is to get pulled into my own screen, too. I’m wondering what your phone is helping with right now.”

This approach does not remove the need for limits. It gives your daughter a better chance of staying in the conversation long enough to tell you something useful

Track Emotional Triggers

Notice when compulsive use spikes. Some common triggers may be:

  • After school.
  • Before bed.
  • After a conflict with friends, family, or partners.
  • During homework.
  • After therapy.
  • When alone.
  • When feeling rejected, bored, or ashamed.

Once you understand the trigger, you can support the underlying need.

Protect Sleep First

Sleep affects mood, focus, impulse control, and emotional regulation. For many families, protecting sleep is the most important first boundary.

Consider:

  • Charging phones outside the bedroom.
  • Using an alarm clock instead of a phone.
  • Creating a screen-off wind-down routine.
  • Keeping school-night rules consistent.
  • Modeling similar habits as adults.

Expect resistance! Resistance does not mean the boundary is wrong, but it can show that the phone has become emotionally important.

Replace the Function, Not Just the Device

Taking away a phone or device without replacing the function it serves can lead to more conflict. Think of that starter conversation when you ask to understand what the phone is helping her with. This answer can help guide healthy replacements for devices.

If your daughter uses screens to calm down, she needs other ways to calm her body. If she uses screens to feel connected, she needs safer forms of connection. If she uses screens to avoid boredom, shame, cravings, or anxiety, she needs help tolerating those feelings without escaping every time.

Offline replacements may include movement, art, music, photography, writing, time with animals, volunteering, cooking, baking, nature-based activities, in-person friend time, or family rituals that are not centered on correction.

In this day and age, the goal is not a screen-free life. A healthy goal is a life where screens are no longer the main coping tool.

Encourage Creative and Educational Tech Use

Not all tech use is equal! A teen creating music, learning design, nurturing healthy friendships, researching a passion, or using technology for school is engaging differently than a teen caught in endless comparison, conflict, or avoidance.

Ask reflective questions:

  • “Do you feel better or worse after using this app?”
  • “Are you creating or consuming?”
  • “Can you stop when you planned to stop?”
  • “Is this helping your goals or pulling you away from them?”
  • “What feeling are you trying not to feel right now?”

These questions build awareness without turning every conversation into punishment.

What to Do Next

If your daughter’s screen use feels compulsive, start with one calm conversation and one practical change.

You might say: “I don’t want to punish you for struggling. I want us to understand what is going on and help you feel more in control.”

Then choose one next step:

  • Move phones out of bedrooms at night.
  • Track emotional triggers for one week.
  • Ask her therapist or pediatrician about problematic screen use.
  • Assess whether screen use is connected to substance use, self-harm, school refusal, or unsafe online behavior.
  • Seek a higher level of care if home limits are not enough.

If your daughter’s screen use is connected to substance use, self-harm, school refusal, emotional outbursts, unsafe online behavior, or repeated failed attempts to cut back, Solstice West RTC can help your family explore whether residential treatment may be the right next step.

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FAQs

Is screen addiction a real addiction?

“Screen addiction” is not an official DSM-5 diagnosis. Still, clinicians and researchers often use terms like problematic screen use, addictive screen use, digital addiction, or gaming-related addictive behaviors. The concern is not the label alone. The concern is whether a teen feels unable to stop and keeps using screens despite harm to sleep, school, relationships, mood, safety, or family trust.

How do I know if my daughter has screen addiction or just likes her phone?

Look at the function it serves and the consequences it’s bringing. If she can easily remove herself from her phone, sleeps well, keeps up with school, enjoys offline life, and uses screens in balanced ways, it may not be addiction. If she cannot stop, hides use, becomes highly distressed offline, loses sleep, avoids “real life”, or uses screens to numb emotions, the pattern may be more concerning.

Can screen addiction be treated in IOP?

Sometimes. IOP may help when screen addiction overlaps with anxiety, depression, family conflict, early substance use, or school problems, but the teen can remain safe at home. IOP gives teens structured support while they practice healthier habits in daily life.

When does screen addiction require residential treatment?

Residential treatment may be appropriate when screen addiction is connected to serious safety concerns, substance use, self-harm, suicidal thoughts, unsafe online relationships, school refusal, aggression, trauma symptoms, or repeated failed attempts to reduce use at home. A licensed professional can help determine the right level of care.

Is screen addiction connected to substance use?

It can be. Screen addiction and substance use are different concerns, but both may function as ways to escape distress, seek reward, or manage painful emotions. Digital spaces may also expose teens to risky peer groups or substance-related content. A clinical assessment can help determine whether both issues need treatment.

Crisis and safety note

This article is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, mental health, or crisis care. If your teen may hurt herself or someone else, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. In the U.S., call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Families outside the U.S. should contact local emergency services or a regional crisis hotline. For diagnosis or treatment recommendations, consult a licensed mental health professional.

References

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. (2026). Screen time and children. https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/Children-And-Watching-TV-054.aspx

American Academy of Pediatrics. (2025). Screen time guidelines. Center of Excellence on Social Media and Youth Mental Health. https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/media-and-children/center-of-excellence-on-social-media-and-youth-mental-health/qa-portal/qa-portal-library/qa-portal-library-questions/screen-time-guidelines/

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Substance-related and addictive disorders. https://www.psychiatry.org/File%20Library/Psychiatrists/Practice/DSM/APA_DSM-5-Substance-Use-Disorder.pdf

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Internet gaming disorder. https://www.psychiatry.org/File%20Library/Psychiatrists/Practice/DSM/APA_DSM-5-Internet-Gaming-Disorder.pdf

Basenach, L., Renneberg, B., Salbach, H., Dreier, M., & Wölfling, K. (2023). Systematic reviews and meta-analyses of treatment interventions for Internet use disorders: Critical analysis of the methodical quality according to the PRISMA guidelines. Journal of Behavioral Addictions, 12(1), 1–17. https://doi.org/10.1556/2006.2022.00087

Prospective association between screen use modalities and substance use experimentation in early adolescents. (2024). Drug and Alcohol Dependence. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0376871624014297

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Does Smartphone Addiction Lead to Depression or Vice Versa?
Does Smartphone Addiction Lead to Depression or Vice Versa? 2560 1707 The Solstice Team

For many teen girls a typical day looks something like this: wake up, roll over and check her phone, scroll through social media while she’s getting ready for school, text friends on their way to class, check out some TikTok videos during lunch break, catch up on anything she missed on social media after school, answer all the notifications as they come while at home, scroll through social media or watch a show on their phone while lying in bed before falling asleep. If we truly monitored the amount of time our daughters spent on their phones, the number would be staggering. But does the amount of time they spend on their phone actually have an impact on their mental health? 

Typically, when we think about teens who spend a lot of time on their phones, we are more likely to wonder if they’re lonely than if they’re popular, or an up-and-coming social media influencer. This suggests that the idea of the relationship between depression and social media addiction is already imprinted in our minds, even if we don’t quite understand how they became so interconnected. New research suggests a person’s reliance on their smartphone predicts greater loneliness and depressive symptoms, as opposed to the other way around. 

What Contributes to Smartphone Addiction?

When looking at the relationship between smartphone addiction and depression, these researchers decided to focus on adolescents, as rates of both issues are most prevalent among this age group. Not only have they all grown up with smartphones, but they are at a stressful stage in life where they are more vulnerable to not knowing how to cope with mental health struggles in a healthy way. 

We often think that teens who don’t know who to talk to or where else to turn in life escape into a virtual world, but researchers claim that this problem starts much earlier. Many teens who spend a lot of time online recognize that social media is addictive and has affected their self-esteem, but they feel like their social reputation is tied to their online presence and therefore can’t delete their accounts. 

One of the major negative effects smartphone use can have on girls’ mental health is contributing to a constant sense of comparison. They see filtered images and pictures of smiling, happy people living their best life. It is easy to see how they could begin to view their own life negatively. They may begin to question why they are not as happy or why they don’t have what other people have. This is also tied into FOMO or Fear Of Missing Out. Social media allows users to be constantly updated when the people they follow post or when they receive a like or comment. Because they fear missing out, disconnecting from their device may feel impossible. 

Why Focus on Effects of Smartphone Use?

“If depression and loneliness lead to smartphone dependency, we could reduce dependency by adjusting people’s mental health,” explains study co-author Pengfei Zhao said. “But, if smartphone dependency (precedes depression and loneliness), which is what we found, we can reduce smartphone dependency to maintain or improve wellbeing.”

“We’ve really been trying to focus on this idea of dependency and problematic use of smartphones being the driver for these psychological outcomes,” describes Zhao. “There’s an issue where people are entirely too reliant on the device, in terms of feeling anxious if they don’t have it accessible, and they’re using it to the detriment of their day-to-day life.”

If we understand that smartphone use is common and, at this stage, fairly natural for young adults, how can we determine when that use has become detrimental? Here are some things to be aware of:

  • Withdrawing from face-to-face social interactions: Maybe you’ve noticed that your daughter quit her favorite after school club or is choosing to stay home on the weekends instead of going out to meet their friends. If she is starting to withdraw or isolate, this can be a sign that she is becoming too dependent on her technology use. 
  • Consistent anxiety, stress: If her smartphone use is leading to mood swings or elevated levels of stress and anxiety that is a clear signal that her smartphone use has become unhealthy. 
  • Grades begin to slip, and assignments reflect poor work or are left undone: If all of their focus is on social media, other areas of their life may begin to suffer. If your previously studious daughter has chosen to spend her evening learning a new TikTok dance instead of preparing for her tests it can lead to a negative impact on her school work. 
  • Avoidance of real life responsibilities, such as chores or homework: For many teens, the last thing they want to do is clean their room or empty the dishwasher. But these are important parts of having healthy, balanced lives. Excessive smartphone use can quickly throw that balance off. 
  • Ill at ease, ill-equipped or unresponsive to people in front of them: If your daughter is spending more time on her phone and less time interacting in real life, she may begin to feel uncomfortable in social situations. Like most things in life, practice is key to building skills, and without that real world practice they do not have the opportunity to build those skills. 
  • Phones begin to create conflict in their closest relationships: What happens when you ask your daughter to put her smartphone away? Does she lash out and get angry? Does limited phone use cause an outburst? Unreasonable reactions to being separated from their smartphone may mean that she has created unhealthy habits. 

Building Offline Communication Skills in Residential Treatment:

Having worked with adolescents with mental health issues for over a decade, Solstice RTC has noticed a recent increase in the number of girls and assigned female at birth we work with who have also struggled with smartphone addiction. Noticing this intersection, we have adapted our programming to help address the unhealthy ways that technology is used, expectations that teens have about their online identities, and communication skills missing from online interactions. 

Raising awareness about social media addiction has become a unique part of Solstice RTC’s program by teaching parents how to handle these issues and set boundaries around electronics.

Equine Therapy: In addition to group and family therapy, we believe that equine therapy is a powerful way of teaching relational skills, like nonverbal communication and social awareness. Using body language with these sensitive animals helps students learn how to better communicate with others and build relationships.

Weekly phone calls with family: Teens today are used to having more conversations online than in person–even with their families. This depersonalized way of socializing often gets in the way of maintaining two-way conversations. While they do not have access to cell phones, students at Solstice are encouraged to make regular phone calls to friends and family members to strengthen their support system. Every week, students have the chance to video chat with their parents during therapy sessions. This helps reframe the phone as a tool and changes the wiring of the brain that feeds smartphone addiction.

Home visits offer opportunities to self-monitor social media use: Students periodically go home for a few days, prior to leaving the program, to gauge how they handle being at home with access to their cell phones and social media. Every teen has an individualized technology contract that they work on with their parents and their therapist to decide what boundaries, if any, may need to be set around healthy media use. 

At Solstice RTC, our goal is to help teen girls and assigned female at birth learn how to use their phones to communicate more effectively with people without feeling like they have to be attached to their phone every second of the day. Many of the girls and assigned female at birth we work with come to our program struggling with a “fear of missing out” and describe their compulsion to “stay updated” on their online social lives all the time.

“For the most part, I can do things and have it in my pocket and not need it. Right now, it’s not that big of an issue for me. I can be by myself and be okay and I’m reconnecting with a lot of things I love. And I don’t feel empty.” -Testimonial from former student who struggled with internet addiction

Solstice RTC Can Help

Solstice is a groundbreaking residential treatment center for girls, ages 14 to 18. Our girls and assigned female at birth often struggle with depression, anxiety, trauma, ADHD,  technology addiction, and other emotional or behavioral problems when they come to us. Through a unique combination of therapeutic programs based upon both traditional and holistic mental health treatment, we treat our clients with age and gender-specific techniques. With a strong emphasis on family therapy based intervention, nutrition, and physical fitness, and the supportive provision of cutting-edge academics, substance abuse/addiction therapy, equine therapy, and psychiatric services. Issues such as smartphone addiction are common and treatable with the right intervention.

Solstice sets the stage for the infusion of light into the previously darkened lives of the families we serve. We strive to empower teenage people with the ability to believe in themselves offline and provide the tools and motivation required to instill these beliefs for life.

For more information about smartphone addiction, contact us at 866-278-3345.

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Shyness or Social Anxiety in Teens? Symptoms and Triggers
Shyness or Social Anxiety in Teens? Symptoms and Triggers 1790 2560 The Solstice Team

Adolescence is filled with new experiences and challenges. Teen girls are going through physical and emotional changes and puberty starts and social dynamics begin to shift. With all these changes, it is easy to see how young women may feel uncomfortable or shy in these new situations. Friend groups may start to expand or contract, and your daughter will have to begin to learn how to create new friendships and relationships. This can be challenging for any teen girl, but for girls struggling with social anxiety, this can be even more difficult. 

Struggling to fit in with people your own age as a teen girl or child-assigned female at birth is terrible. Most teen girls and assigned female at birth base their entire lives around their social life. They make it a higher priority than spending time with their family and/or even doing well academically. For some teen girls, this social life is not an option. Social anxiety in teens can be absolutely crippling in many aspects of a teen’s life. Unlike the self-consciousness most people feel from time to time, social anxiety in teens creates a fear of social situations that is so intense people avoid all situations that might trigger the fear response.

What is social anxiety? 

Feelings of shyness or discomfort in certain situations aren’t necessarily signs of social anxiety disorder, particularly in children. Their comfort levels in social situations will vary, depending on their personality traits and life experiences. Some teens are naturally reserved and others are more outgoing.

In contrast to everyday nervousness, social anxiety disorder includes fear, anxiety and avoidance that interfere with daily routine, work, school or other activities. Social anxiety disorder typically begins in the early to mid-teens, though it can sometimes start in younger children or in adults.

Many people experience some form of anxiety in their lives, but social anxiety is a type of anxiety disorder that causes extreme fear in social settings. Teens with this disorder have trouble talking to peers, meeting new people, and attending social gatherings. They fear being judged or scrutinized by others. They may understand that their fears are irrational or unreasonable, but feel powerless to overcome them.

There is no one cause of social anxiety, but current research shows that it can be caused by a combination of environmental factors and genetics. Some negative experiences that could contribute to social anxiety are bullying, family conflict, and abuse. Physical abnormalities such as a serotonin imbalance may contribute to this condition. Serotonin is a chemical in the brain that helps regulate mood. An overactive amygdala (the part of the brain that controls fear responses and feelings or thoughts of anxiety) may also cause these disorders.

Anxiety disorders can run in families, but it is currently unclear if there are genetic factors involved. A teen may develop an anxiety disorder by learning the behavior of a parent or family member who has an anxiety disorder. They learn to internalize these behaviors which can trigger a disorder of their own. Teens can also develop anxiety disorders as a result of being raised in controlling or overprotective environments.

Social anxiety in teens is actually fairly common. However, the social situations that trigger social anxiety can be very different. Some of these triggers include:

  • being the center of attention
  • meeting new people
  • making small talk
  • being criticized or teased
  • speaking with authority figures
  • public speaking
  • navigating new spaces

How can you tell if your teen has social anxiety?

Just because your teen occasionally gets nervous when she’s in social situations doesn’t mean they necessarily have social anxiety. Many people are shy or self-conscious—at least from time to time—but it doesn’t get in the way of their everyday functioning. Social anxiety in teens, on the other hand, does get in the way of a teen’s normal routine and can cause tremendous distress. That’s why it’s important to note symptoms of social anxiety in teens:

  • Fear that others will notice nervousness
  • Fear of humiliation and being watched by others
  • Feeling dizzy
  • Reddened face
  • Blushing
  • Fast heartbeat
  • Trembling
  • Sweating
  • Upset stomach or nausea
  • Trouble catching your breath
  • Dizziness or lightheadedness
  • Feeling that your mind has gone blank
  • Muscle tension

Teens with social anxiety may avoid situations that they used to enjoy such as social gatherings or school events. They may begin to withdraw and isolate as a way to deal with their anxiety. And while avoiding situations that cause anxiety may help them feel better in the moment, their anxiety is likely to continue if they do not receive treatment. 

If you notice that your teen is exhibiting signs or symptoms of a social anxiety disorder, it may be time to seek out professional help for a diagnosis. According to the ADAA, about 36 percent of people with social anxiety don’t speak to a healthcare provider until they have had symptoms for at least 10 years. The symptoms of social anxiety may themselves be a deterrent to reaching out for help. A mental health professional will diagnose social phobia from a description of your teen’s symptoms. They can also diagnose social phobia after examining certain behavioral patterns.

Treating Social Anxiety

There are several types of treatment available for social anxiety disorder, and different types of treatment make work for different people. For some, one type of treatment is beneficial, for others, a combination of treatments may be helpful. 

Treatment options for social anxiety disorder include: 

Cognitive behavioral therapy: This therapy helps teens learn how to control anxiety through relaxation and breathing, and how to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. CBT helps teens recognize their behavior patterns and how to address negative patterns to create positive one. 

Exposure therapy: This type of therapy helps teens gradually face social situations, rather than avoiding them. They can practice coping skills in challenging environments so that they can start to become more comfortable in these situations. 

Group therapy: This therapy helps teens learn social skills and techniques to interact with peers in social settings. Participating in group therapy with others who have the same fears may make them feel less alone. It will give them a chance to practice their new skills through role-playing.

There are also lifestyle changes you and your teen can take into consideration. Paying attention to their sleep habits and making sure they are getting enough rest can be a good first step, as well as avoiding stimulants like caffeine that can make them feel jittery or exacerbate anxiety symptoms. Some teens may also benefit from medications that manage anxiety symptoms. Antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications can play a part in a treatment plan. 

The most important thing to understand when dealing with an anxiety disorder is that it will likely take time for your teen to get under control. Encourage your teen to have patience and take pride in the steps they are taking to improve their mental health. 

Residential Treatment for Social Anxiety 

For some teens, making changes at home and participating in outpatient therapy can be helpful. Other teens may benefit from the structure and support of a residential treatment center. A residential treatment center like Solstice West combines therapy practices such as individual, family, adventure, and group therapy for a holistic treatment approach. 

Milieu therapy is an experiential therapeutic approach that utilizes the residential environment of our program to better understand how to help your child approach and overcome their challenges. At Solstice West, milieu therapy is carried out by observing your child’s behaviors and emotions throughout the day, within a variety of different settings. Milieu therapy provides an invaluable “in the moment” understanding of your child’s challenges, unique from traditional talk therapy. Milieu experiential therapy utilizes the social culture of a residential treatment environment to create positive changes in your child’s behavior. These changes are achieved through the therapeutic use of our campus’s “community”, which includes their peers, staff, community roles, and responsibilities, groups, and meetings. The positive influence of peers can promote a powerful and sustainable change when combined with the intentional application of other therapeutic interventions.

Volunteering and community service is a significant component of our adventure therapy program. Our students participate in community service regularly, volunteering at a variety of local and regional organizations. Our students learn how to build and maintain a sense of community by repeatedly volunteering with a select group of organizations in our area. As they gain stronger relationships with the people and organizations we work with, they begin to feel more connected to the community and the work they do.

Solstice West Can Help

Solstice West, a residential treatment center for teen girls and assigned females at birth ages 12-18, can help your child struggling with social anxiety. We help girls and assigned female at birth struggling with emotional and behavioral difficulties such as depression, anxiety, and eating issues. 

Our relationship-based philosophy is based on the significant body of research that supports the idea that the “therapeutic alliance” is the factor that contributes most to positive change in the therapeutic process. This “alliance” is referring to healthy, trusting relationships. At Solstice, we ensure that your child has the ability to develop many safe, secure, and authentic relationships. This begins with employing the right people. Also training them effectively in the process of building and maintaining these relationships with our clients and families. For more information about Solstice, please call (866) 278-3345.

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